Time to come clean - The Barrow-Downs Discussion Forum

Aganzir · 05-22-2009, 02:01 PM

*just imagines how shocked Form will be if he checks Facebook before the Downs*

satansaloser2005 · 05-22-2009, 03:28 PM

I think I have to go check my tea and see if it was spiked. I'll be back later.

radagastly · 05-22-2009, 04:22 PM

For what it's worth, I think a certain amount of deception and anonymity on the 'net is merely prudent. It's really just a kind of firewall, a smart move usually.

I also just now discovered there was a Barrow Downs group on Facebook. I put in my request to join as well . . .

p.s.--my alter-ego here is "ainur" though I can't remember his password. That's how radagastly came to be.

Feanor of the Peredhil · 05-22-2009, 04:39 PM

It appears that others forgive blatant deception pretty easily.

Elmo · 05-22-2009, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Feanor of the Peredhil

It appears that others forgive blatant deception pretty easily.

It's only teh internet. Is it really that important that it needs to be 'forgiven'?

Boromir88 · 05-22-2009, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Elmo

It's only teh internet. Is it really that important that it needs to be 'forgiven'?

With all due respect, I have talked with some of these members for 4-5 years who thought they were talking to someone else and now realize that was all fake. I appreciate all the understanding and I appreciate all the kindness, but this is my doing and I've wanted to do this to lift off a giant burden, whatever happens now happens...I can accept any of the consequences.

alatar · 05-22-2009, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Feanor of the Peredhil

It appears that others forgive blatant deception pretty easily.

If any of you are without sin...

FotP, I could see if it were someone like me, who may try to manipulate others for gain, rep points or just mere amusement; to actively set out to deceive people with the intent of causing pain, suffering, delusion, acne, summer reruns, etc. Someone who is wise as a serpent and and harmless as a sneezing Ebola-laden dove with a case of the runs. Someone old enough, and with the means and wit to know better, someone 'tall' enough to never to be in over his/her head.

I'm not the best one to judge here, but it this the case with BoroKent?

Rumil · 05-22-2009, 06:57 PM

Don't worry mate,

sounds like its not a problem. I must say that I've rarely believed 100% in online personas, in fact it would be silly to do so.

Maybe I should start an account where I'm 16 again !

Cheers,

Rumil

Feanor of the Peredhil · 05-22-2009, 07:14 PM

No lectures about cast stones, if you please. If he hadn't wanted a public display of displeasure, he wouldn't have made a blatantly public statement. Given that he chose a public forum for his admission, it is unfair that I should be lambasted for an honest public reaction.

Whether or not I overreact, that aspect of the matter is private, and has been dealt with quietly, efficiently, politely, and, above all, privately.

And whether or not I forgive him for misleading me for the past five years is, succinctly, nobody's business but ours.

Durelin · 05-23-2009, 12:27 AM

It's the internet. Yes we get pretty cozy on the 'Downs here, some more than others, but the reality is there (and this coming from someone who met her *significant other* of almost 5 years on the interwebs, so don't think I'm ragging on it as silly or strange). Really it's not wise to share much true personal information in general, so pfft. And I understand parents being concerned about your internet activity. I also have done precisely what you did on other sites, and did use a second screenname on the 'Downs in order to play in an RPG loosely incognito.

Be who you want to be -- love having you around, RPing with you, playing WW with you, etc. regardless.

Pitchwife · 05-22-2009, 04:56 PM

Dear Boro/Kent,
although I don't know either of you really well, I'd like to say that I know exactly how you felt when you started this thread. About fifteen years ago, I did something very similar (lying to all of my friends over a couple of years) in RL - a very difficult period in my life that I'm anything but proud of in retrospect, and I remember every bit of it. Feeling like a piece of **** all the time. The need to avoid certain subjects in conversation so as not to entangle myself in more and more lies. How hard it was to work up the courage to tell the truth - first to one person, then to another, then to another (it got easier with the time). And the joyous surprise when almost all of them forgave me, said it was good to have the real me back, and helped me to deal with the bigger problems I was facing at the time (and which had driven me to lying in the first place).
From my perspective, what you have done is comparably harmless - but I congratulate you on the courage of coming out; and I'm glad you seem to be getting much the same kind of response I got. (A marvelous bunch of people, these Downers!)
Anyway, I've enjoyed reading your posts under either name, and I hope to read more in the future!

Isabellkya · 05-22-2009, 05:13 PM

I understand to some extent where you are coming from.
When I first got introduced to the internet, I was twelve or thirteen - and one of the conditions my parents gave me, was to not reveal any type of personal information about myself. Otherwise they would look over my shoulder, or check everything I did - to make sure I wasn't mixing with nefarious people. It became a hassle so I just figured it would be easier to wait a few years.

I'm quite as shocked as other people. As I had no clue. It doesn't mean I take back my actions from that game though. Nope!

I do agree though, keeping the name Boro would be much easier to deal with than Kent. As I still see them as separate people. Though, whatever you choose! xD

05-22-2009, 02:01 PM	#1
Aganzir Woman of Secret Shadow Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: in hollow halls beneath the fells Posts: 4,511	just imagines how shocked Form* will be if he checks Facebook before the Downs* __________________ He bit me, and I was not gentle.

05-22-2009, 03:28 PM	#2
satansaloser2005 The Sweetest Spoiler Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: from beneath you it giggles incessantly Posts: 5,789	I think I have to go check my tea and see if it was spiked. I'll be back later. __________________ "My heart always cowers behind the defense of my wit." Friendship is two pals munching on a well-cooked face together. Fenris bookworm.

05-22-2009, 04:22 PM	#3
radagastly Shade of Carn Dûm Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Washington, D. C., USA Posts: 299	For what it's worth, I think a certain amount of deception and anonymity on the 'net is merely prudent. It's really just a kind of firewall, a smart move usually. I also just now discovered there was a Barrow Downs group on Facebook. I put in my request to join as well . . . p.s.--my alter-ego here is "ainur" though I can't remember his password. That's how radagastly came to be. __________________ But all the while I sit and think of times there were before, I listen for returning feet and voices at the door. Last edited by radagastly; 05-22-2009 at 04:29 PM.

05-22-2009, 04:39 PM	#4
Feanor of the Peredhil La Belle Dame sans Merci Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: perpetual uncertainty Posts: 5,517	It appears that others forgive blatant deception pretty easily. __________________ peace

05-22-2009, 06:57 PM	#8
Rumil Sage & Onions Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Britain Posts: 894	Let him cast the first stone Don't worry mate, sounds like its not a problem. I must say that I've rarely believed 100% in online personas, in fact it would be silly to do so. Maybe I should start an account where I'm 16 again ! Cheers, Rumil __________________ Rumil of Coedhirion

05-22-2009, 07:14 PM	#9
Feanor of the Peredhil La Belle Dame sans Merci Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: perpetual uncertainty Posts: 5,517	No lectures about cast stones, if you please. If he hadn't wanted a public display of displeasure, he wouldn't have made a blatantly public statement. Given that he chose a public forum for his admission, it is unfair that I should be lambasted for an honest public reaction. Whether or not I overreact, that aspect of the matter is private, and has been dealt with quietly, efficiently, politely, and, above all, privately. And whether or not I forgive him for misleading me for the past five years is, succinctly, nobody's business but ours. __________________ peace

05-23-2009, 12:27 AM	#10
Durelin Estelo dagnir, Melo ring Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 3,063	It's the internet. Yes we get pretty cozy on the 'Downs here, some more than others, but the reality is there (and this coming from someone who met her significant other of almost 5 years on the interwebs, so don't think I'm ragging on it as silly or strange). Really it's not wise to share much true personal information in general, so pfft. And I understand parents being concerned about your internet activity. I also have done precisely what you did on other sites, and did use a second screenname on the 'Downs in order to play in an RPG loosely incognito. Be who you want to be -- love having you around, RPing with you, playing WW with you, etc. regardless. Last edited by Durelin; 05-23-2009 at 12:31 AM.

05-22-2009, 04:56 PM	#11
Pitchwife Wight of the Old Forest Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Unattended on the railway station, in the litter at the dancehall Posts: 3,329	Dear Boro/Kent, although I don't know either of you really well, I'd like to say that I know exactly how you felt when you started this thread. About fifteen years ago, I did something very similar (lying to all of my friends over a couple of years) in RL - a very difficult period in my life that I'm anything but proud of in retrospect, and I remember every bit of it. Feeling like a piece of **** all the time. The need to avoid certain subjects in conversation so as not to entangle myself in more and more lies. How hard it was to work up the courage to tell the truth - first to one person, then to another, then to another (it got easier with the time). And the joyous surprise when almost all of them forgave me, said it was good to have the real me back, and helped me to deal with the bigger problems I was facing at the time (and which had driven me to lying in the first place). From my perspective, what you have done is comparably harmless - but I congratulate you on the courage of coming out; and I'm glad you seem to be getting much the same kind of response I got. (A marvelous bunch of people, these Downers!) Anyway, I've enjoyed reading your posts under either name, and I hope to read more in the future! __________________ Und aus dem Erebos kamen viele seelen herauf der abgeschiedenen toten.- Homer, Odyssey, Canto XI

05-22-2009, 05:13 PM	#12
Isabellkya Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Amongst trees. Posts: 919	I understand to some extent where you are coming from. When I first got introduced to the internet, I was twelve or thirteen - and one of the conditions my parents gave me, was to not reveal any type of personal information about myself. Otherwise they would look over my shoulder, or check everything I did - to make sure I wasn't mixing with nefarious people. It became a hassle so I just figured it would be easier to wait a few years. I'm quite as shocked as other people. As I had no clue. It doesn't mean I take back my actions from that game though. Nope! I do agree though, keeping the name Boro would be much easier to deal with than Kent. As I still see them as separate people. Though, whatever you choose! xD __________________ But I was clinging to her like a homicidal monkey.