I know your face.

[malkatoj]

Originally posted by Feanor of the Peredhil
With Gandalf and Pip, that's tougher, because Gandalf had more say in the matter, and made sure his say was heard. But that's sort of like choosing to listen to you grouchy old grandpa because you know that beneath the gruffness, he really cares about you, and has a lot to share that's very interesting and possibly important.

I see this completely differently. The way I look at it, Pippin doesn't listen to Gandalf because he knows he cares or because he's a fatherly figure or anything of the sort. It seems to me that Pippin only listens to Gandalf because he knows it's best for Frodo. Pippin also realizes that he, alone, wouldn't know what's best for Frodo and the Ring so in order to help, he must listen to Gandalf.

As for the Arwen point: I don't think she's just rebelling, I was just thinking of it as a possibility. It just seems strange to me, and perhaps psychologically inaccurate, that a child who was so completely under her father's influence could suddenly gain the strength that it took for her to choose to stay.

Though in the end, Arwen's decision is entirely her own (only because Elrond actually can't make it for her), Elrond tries to convince her otherwise the entire way.

Which leads more into what I'm saying. Arwen chooses, despite the fact that her father tries constantly to convince her not to, to stay. I guess I'm being repetitive here--I just think that, after being repressed for so long, it would be difficult for her to make such a huge decision right away.

[Boromir88]

Faramir, clearly, is simply trying to prove himself.~malktoj

I agree. I think this goes into further explain why Faramir decided to take Frodo to Osgiliath as well.

B, I like your topic. Ye've gone and made me think a bit about my parents and my other "parents".~Fea

I'm glad you enjoy it.

I like what you said about Elrond and Arwen. I think throughout we do get to see that Arwen doesn't despise, or dislike her father, but she's just committed to Aragorn, and her love for him is what gets it through.

Is it TTT when we see him tell her she's going to the Undying Lands, and despite this, she still says "I love you dad" in Elvish. So, I just think it was a matter that Arwen's love for Aragorn brought her back, but she still loved pa.

We even get to see Elrond like this in the books to some extent. When he tells Aragorn that only a King of Gondor will be worthy enough to marry my daughter. I think the books dramatize this a bit, but in the end he accepts Aragorn as worth.

To Elrond it seems as if it's got to be somebody of worth (and even more it's got to be the King of Gondor), perhaps it was a test to Aragorn to see how much he really loved Arwen? What was he willing to do for her?

To Theoden, he's much more relaxed. His only concern is whether Eowyn's happy or not, even when times are dark, Theoden wants to be happy-happy-joy-joy. He sees what he thinks is "love" between Eowyn and Aragorn (though we know Eowyn wants things from Aragorn that he cannot give), but if Aragorn makes Eowyn happy, then Theoden says go for it. Once he realizes that it was a false sense of love, he doesn't want her to waste away her life thinking about him, and that she is still young.

So basically, Theoden wants Eowyn to be happy, no matter who she is with. With Elrond and Arwen, it seems that it has to be somebody worthy of her daughters love, and that person would truly do anything for Arwen. Which, I think is understandable, Arwen is facing a tough choice, and Elrond doesn't want her to forsake her immortality for a guy that might not love her.

Hmmm. Boro88, are you suggesting that Jackson has issues with his own father, that he transcribes into his art by bringing this father/child theme into prominence in the movies?~Bethberry

Interesting, I did not know that, I think it seems to be the case. As it seems that the real parent-child (Denethor- his sons, Elrond and Arwen) seem to be more controlling over what their children do, or even a point to show the influence parents have on the way their children become and act in the future? Where the not "natural" parent-child relationships just seem more relaxed and not so controlling. Theoden still acts like a father to Eowyn, but it's not in the way that he controls what she does or says. Same with Bilbo and Frodo I think.

The Gaffer-Sam one I will have to look into, I don't own the EE's and haven't seen the FOTR one in years.

[Holbytlass]

Originally Posted by malkatoj

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Though in the end, Arwen's decision is entirely her own (only because Elrond actually can't make it for her), Elrond tries to convince her otherwise the entire way.


Which leads more into what I'm saying. Arwen chooses, despite the fact that her father tries constantly to convince her not to, to stay. I guess I'm being repetitive here--I just think that, after being repressed for so long, it would be difficult for her to make such a huge decision right away.

I have to disagree with Malkatoj, I feel that the Elrond/Arwen situation is not as "repressive" as it seems. I think it is a matter of what has always been done, Elrond and Arwen are elves, elves either stay or leave Middle-Earth. Except for one example they marry their own kind, if at all.

I see (movie) Elrond trying to protect Arwen from future heartache in a choice that is binding forever. Even to the extent in causing her short term heartache by not being with the man she loves.

Also, I think Arwen HAS made up her mind all the while of what she wants to do, but feels duty (and love) bound to carry out her father's wishes. It is when she has a vision of one of her children (thereby understanding there will be children) that she finds her courage and resolve to do what she needs to do, not so much to defy or rebel against her father but be strong for her (future) children.
Her maternal instincts were awaken and by following her father's wishes she is not fighting for her children. What's the most dangerous place to be? Between a mother and her child(ren).

I'm going to jump to hobbits right now:

Gaffer/Sam and Bilbo/Frodo
Hobbits in general are more laid back than any other race. Not surprising as they are well protected, don't have to battle like 'men', and aren't as regal like 'elves'. Even the hobbits' positons of power are more down to earth than the kings and queens of other realms.

Frodo and Sam are also males, assuming things are the same as in the 'time period' it represents, males were afforded more freedom of choice and 'be their own man'.

Yes, Pippin listened to Gandalf because he was the leader, but I do agree with Feanor of the 'grouchy old man' that one comes to love.

I'm leaving Denethor/sons alone.

Theodon/Eowyn:
This is interesting because on one hand Theoden is more calm about Eowyn's love choice. There's nothing much to gripe about, Aragorn's the same race and rightful king to Gondor. I do believe that Theoden genuinely is concerned about Eowyn's happiness, in a mate. But he did not allow her to go to war even though that would make her happy. Because that was the thinking in that time, woman's place was to get married, taken care of by husband and have children.

I like Theoden but he is not as concerned abouyt Eowyn's overall happiness, just try to find the right suitor for his daughter as Elrond is trying to do for Arwen.