Marriage in Middle-earth II (unhappy) - The Barrow-Downs Discussion Forum

Morwen Tindomerel · 06-09-2003, 08:02 PM

I would point out there is absolutely nothing preventing *Erendis* from walking away. She knows all about Aldarion's sea obsession from well before their marriage. If it bothered her that much, if she was so needy and dependent as to require her husband's attendance 24/7, she should have kindly told Aldarion to get lost and found somebody else to be her lap dog.

Forgive me but I have no use at all for anybody, male or female, who demands their partner give up their dream or lifeswork for them.

Granted Aldarion is not blameless but he is the only one in that relationship who makes any concessions at all. All he asks is forbearance and tolerance *she* demands he give up his life work - and for what? Life on a sheep station with an astonishingly narrow minded woman jealously demanding his full attention all the time?

And I can't get over Erendis' reaction to Aldarion's failing to return on the promised day. Not worry, not concern, no thought at all that something might have happened to him, just pure childish resentment at not getting what she wants. As far as I'm concerned that alone proves she never had any real feeling for Aldarion the man at all.

[ June 09, 2003: Message edited by: Morwen Tindomerel ]

06-09-2003, 08:02 PM	#28
Morwen Tindomerel Wight Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Minas Anor or Annuminas the Golden Posts: 187	I would point out there is absolutely nothing preventing Erendis from walking away. She knows all about Aldarion's sea obsession from well before their marriage. If it bothered her that much, if she was so needy and dependent as to require her husband's attendance 24/7, she should have kindly told Aldarion to get lost and found somebody else to be her lap dog. Forgive me but I have no use at all for anybody, male or female, who demands their partner give up their dream or lifeswork for them. Granted Aldarion is not blameless but he is the only one in that relationship who makes any concessions at all. All he asks is forbearance and tolerance she demands he give up his life work - and for what? Life on a sheep station with an astonishingly narrow minded woman jealously demanding his full attention all the time? And I can't get over Erendis' reaction to Aldarion's failing to return on the promised day. Not worry, not concern, no thought at all that something might have happened to him, just pure childish resentment at not getting what she wants. As far as I'm concerned that alone proves she never had any real feeling for Aldarion the man at all. [ June 09, 2003: Message edited by: Morwen Tindomerel ]