Elwë's and Olwë's Indisposition

[Maédhros]

olwe's reaction seems a reasonable one to me, trying to keep his friends from what he feared would be a dark path....

In a way, i agree with that. He chose the valar instead of his friends. I would have recommended that the Teleri would offer their ships as a Ferry system to carry the Noldor to ME, such as they did in the War of Wrath.

why elwe would not grant finwe's kin entry i'm not sure....one would definitely assume he would welcome the sons of his friend....

I think you're right. Elwe was an arrogant king.

Elwe at least allowed Finrod and Galadriel into Doriath because they were his kin.

This is just plain despicable. What about the benefit of the doubt. Face it, Elwe was jealous of the coming of so many princes from Valinor, eager for new kingdoms.