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Originally Posted by Macalaure
Well, as I said before, you don't have to participate in the post game talk if you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with that. But you have to concede that there are some players who enjoy it. Recapitulation accompanied with a little analysis of why the game went the way it did is a lot of fun, too. It has nothing to do with grading people's games. Far from it.
The talk after Valesse's game went wrong, one cannot deny that. Banning it now is too harsh a measure to me. (Warning: lame analogy ahead!) The child fell from the apple tree. Do you forbid it to climb again? No, you just tell it to be more careful the next time.  |
If someone criticises you, either directly or indirectly, (and to use an analogy from my grim teaching days Offsted were not allowed to name individual teachers only subject areas - however if as in my case you were the only teacher of a subject...how "impersonal" is that?) then your choice is compromised. I can choose whether or not to comment on others but if someone attacks me I am obliged to defend myself or put up with the aggrievement - which is not psychologically healthy.
As a liberal I am not generally into banning anything but my liberalism is in combination with (or perhaps the product of..)an old fashioned British upbringing that expects you to be a good loser (and that doesn't mean you
like losing) and magnanimous in victory. I would hope players would be largely self regulating. If this is not possible and since there are inevitably different perspectives of what is acceptable in a diverse community such as ours then you need to set up a regulatory system.
My game is rugby. I played for my university and we played hard and to win -but it is a game where people get hurt very badly if players lose self control and break the rules. In the heat of the moment you can get carried away which is why strong refereeing is necessary. It isn't generally necessary during post match parties.
So Mac, I would certainly let the child climb the tree but I would stop its siblings from carping, crowing and generally destroying its self-esteem. Having been the one who fell the child is acutely aware of their failure and don't need their nose rubbed in it.
I do think that courtesy to mods is something that should be borne in mind. It isn't easy. I do recommend the use of a dedicated admin thread. I found it helpful.
Although it isn't my choice to do so for my own games, I have no objection to the grimoire in its original form as a record of games. It has lost much of its usefulness, I fee,l with people repeatedly posting updated personal stats in a new post.
I would suggest that if people wish to publicise their personal record a new thread is created. They make ONE post and update it after each game. The original thread should then be cleansed to leave game stats only. You then have 2 useful threads in which it is much easier to find information.
Edit. Can I go at the end of the modding list. We should be ready by then.
