What do you assign to Mordor?

[wilwarin538]

I assign being too shy to say what you think or feel. You can never manage to say what you truly want to, and then you spend an eternity afterwards with the thousands of 'if only's that stem from just one spineless occasion. *Sigh*

I agree with this. I keep saying to myself, "Today's the day I tell him how I feel.", then I end up having a fifteen minute conversation with him, and never say it.

Anyway, you probably don't want to know about any of that so.....

I send really boring days at work to Mordor. One day about a hundred people are waiting in line, the next day I have two. It makes the shift go by dreadfully slow.

[Rune Son of Bjarne]

Originally Posted by wilwarin538

I agree with this. I keep saying to myself, "Today's the day I tell him how I feel.", then I end up having a fifteen minute conversation with him, and never say it.

I once had the same problem (almost, it was a she), but no more!
How you ask! Well it is quit simpel, I just locked my self in a room and never left (still in it).

I asign post-delivery rutes in Gentofte (suburbia of Copenhagen)

[littlemanpoet]

Introversion and shyness aren't the same. I'm introverted (a lot!), needing much alone time. I'm not as shy as I used to be (not afraid to speak my mind) because I'm not as afraid of what others may think or do in response to my initiations. So shy folks, just remember that a smile goes a long way. In addition to that, almost everybody craves positives from others, so taking the initiative to offer a positive to someone else is not likely to draw a negative response. And even if it does, maybe the problem is the other person instead of yourself.

Extraverts don't have shyness problems, I'm guessing, because they've spoken their minds so often that a couple negative responses are watered down by all the positives. Most people want positive interaction, so take a chance.

Oh, and on adverts, tape the show. That's what I do. Then I can blitz through the commercials and get right on with the show. It does require delayed gratification, but I find that it's worth it.

[Encaitare]

To Mordor:
1. The disappointment of actually having asked him out only to learn that he does not feel the same way.
2. When the really great cartoons are on too late to watch on a school night.

[Feanor of the Peredhil]

There is not a thing in the world wrong with introversion, except when extroverts take offense to the fact that you'd often rather spend a night alone with a good book than in their company. I truly prize my solitude, and have trouble explaining that I'm not lonely when I'm alone, and, quite often, am far more comfortable when I'm not surrounded with people. And so, I send pushy extroverts to Mordor, but not for extended periods, just when I'm feeling anti-social.

Mind you, that doesn't mean I'm shy. I complained the other day at the studio that I wanted to paint and my friend said jokingly "so go make friends with the painter boys." So I did. A pair of upperclassmen, one of which was pretty darned cute. Mind you, I found out later that they both smoke, and that just bothered me greatly (smokers to Mordor!). So yes, being shy does not equal being introverted, just as being flirty and talkative doesn't make you an extrovert.

Ha! On topic, not overly-ranting, and it amuses me. Go Mordor!

[mormegil]

I send to Mordor the baseball playoffs; every year the overtake the two episodes of The Simpsons that are on so I don't get my daily fix for a long time. Really baseball is one of the most boring sports known to man.

[the phantom]

I assign being too shy to say what you think or feel. You can never manage to say what you truly want to, and then you spend an eternity afterwards with the thousands of 'if only's that stem from just one spineless occasion. *Sigh*

Ah, but that's simply one of the things we introverts have to put up with

I keep saying to myself, "Today's the day I tell him how I feel.", then I end up having a fifteen minute conversation with him, and never say it.

Oh, to be a teen again.

Don't feel alone introverts *snicker*, for extraverts also can have trouble telling people how they "really feel". I mean, when a guy talks and flirts non-stop all the time, if he tries to tell someone how he "really feels" it'll come off sounding just like his usual flirty self. The only way he can show that there is a difference is to get super-over-the-top gushy, which he definitely isn't crazy enough to do unless he is super sleepy or drunk, and even then everyone will still think he's just being his usual self only with weariness or alcohol added.

So, you don't want to be overly shy or flirty. Both are bad. You would do well to take Papa littlemanpoet's advice and simply give compliments to people you like. It's that simple. Notice your target's outfit or hair and if you like it tell them you do and why. If they write a good article for the school paper or if they give a good speech tell them you liked it and why you liked it. Look for opportunities to say something nice.

I've never had anyone give me a negative response for saying something nice to them. People like positives coming their way.

Take me for instance- I definitely respond positively to compliments. I absolutely love it when I go to someplace and a couple girls or so notice that I have a new suit, a new shirt, or a new tie, and say they like it. It makes me think Wow! Not only has she complimented my taste in clothing, but she also must pay close enough attention to me all the time to know when I'm wearing something that I've never worn before.

Now, after you've opened the door for compliments, see if the other person starts tossing some back your way. Start with simpler stuff, then step it up and see if they do too. I'm sort of simplifying here, but as an example go from "I really like that outfit" to something more like "You look really good in that outfit". You see how the second one says a lot more? That's how it's supposed to work. You should step your way towards each other- as opposed to constantly biting your tongue and never letting anything out and then suddenly jumping off a bridge and spilling your guts.

The disappointment of actually having asked him out only to learn that he does not feel the same way.

Wow, you are way braver than me, Enca. Though I've had girlfriends, I've never straight-up asked a girl out. You see, I'm pretty good at getting a feel for people and I'm good with words, so I always manage to get her to say "yes" before I have actually asked the question. Yeah, I know that's not very chivalrous, but I don't care.

And Enca, m'dear, I certainly hope you aren't still feeling blue about your bad experience, because from what I've heard you were far too smart and pretty for him, anyway.

And, seeing as it is past midnight and I have to wake up for work in six hours, I send working any time before noon to Mordor!!

[Lalaith]

I hate to say this, but "phantom's absolutely right."

The other thing I would say is to not get too hung up on labels. The extrovert/introvert definitions aren't nearly as clear-cut as some of these personality things would make out, people are more complicated than that.

You'd be surprised how many "extroverts" need time to themselves, keep a lot of things private and get nervous before social events, just like you do. Often it's just about being better at putting on an act, or having a need to please other people.