Fare thee well - The Barrow-Downs Discussion Forum

Finduilas · 06-07-2008, 08:44 AM

I'm leaving the Downs, and since I don't want to just dissapear, I'll say goodbye first!

Just so you know, nothing's wrong, I'm not half dead or torn apart inside. Life's great, or at least normal. Mom just told me she doesn't want me on this site anymore, and I think her reasoning was my life is too busy to waste time on a LotR fan site. And, I think she is right.

I love you all, and I will miss you. But I'll get over it.

I'm getting on next weekend for the last time, till then, Goodbye!

~Finduilas~

Mithalwen · 06-07-2008, 09:02 AM

Well that is pity... Tolkien has been such a positive thing in my life that it seems sad that it is regarded as a waste of time... but then the internet wasn't widely available until after I had finished my formal education, if it had, no doubt my parents might have taken action

Though there are far worse ways to spend time...

Anyway all the best for what ever you do do instead - and you may close the door but we won't lock it behind you.

Groin Redbeard · 06-07-2008, 01:50 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that you are leaving, Findiulas. Though I can understand you mothers point view, and I wish you luck in all of your future endevours in life. Your memory will still live on here, in the land of the dead!

God Bless you, Finduilas.

alatar · 06-07-2008, 07:37 PM

Thanks for all of your interesting insights, and good luck with whatever you may be doing.

You'll be missed.

Morai · 06-07-2008, 08:49 PM

Aw...I wish I had gotten to know you better! Well wishes and blessings, and as Mithalwen said, you're welcome whenever your mum likes.

Formendacil · 06-07-2008, 09:16 PM

A good-bye from me might not seem quite in order, given that your period of membership corresponds fairly well to my period of relatively inactive membership, but I'll chime in anyway with best wishes for "real" life, and also add my formal protest to the notion that this site is a waste of time.

It is, in many respects, of course. Time spent online never accomplishes any great moral victories, no one is materially benefited, and when you go to bed at night, all you can say about those lost hours is "I laughed way too hard about that..."

That being said, how many of us actually spend our days completely productively? Maybe I'm in the minority, but I certainly cannot say that I do. An awful lot of my time is spent in useless, self-entertaining endeavours. And as far as THOSE go, I think the Barrow-downs is probably about as good as they come, and maybe then some. Quite apart from all the laughs, the discussions, and the skills involved in both that have been honed here, even two years after I've been intimately involved on this site, I'd still consider a number of the best friends I have in the world to be members here.

So, if you actually are going off to spend every waking moment in productive and moral actions, then you have my complete commendation, but otherwise... while I wish you the best of luck... I can't imagine that taking leave of one of the nicest, awesomest, communities of individuals being such a good thing.

Apologies if I'm making this more depressing... I realise your mom's decision isn't exactly your own.

Hookbill the Goomba · 06-08-2008, 12:16 PM

Woe!

May your time in the land of the living be filled with good things, fun times and, most importantly, cake. Always remember there is a nice cold Barrow open to you here on the Downs. We'll try and keep them squatters out (they're mostly still up at Amon Rûdh) and not let the rat problem get out of hand... again.

I am avoiding the temptation to shout "FIGHT THE POWER!", but I suppose that your work and future are important. May good times follow you to the end. After that, come back and tell us all about it!

Macalaure · 06-08-2008, 03:47 PM

It's a pity I never got to know you very much here. Sad to see you go, now. You will always be welcomed, should you return.

Hmm... if your mother doesn't trust your judgement concerning what web pages you visit, maybe she trust Folwren's? If you and your sister both state that this is one of the most harmless places on the web, maybe she will reconsider? Concerning time, as others have said, real life duties of course have to take precedence, but they are, after all, never a reason to abandon a nice pastime entirely.

Anyway, all the best wishes to you for your further life. Be happy!

Eomer of the Rohirrim · 06-09-2008, 05:59 AM

10 to 20 years? What on Middle-earth are your plans?

You have to get online to check your email, I presume. I also presume that you are a fairly well-balanced individual who is able to browse for 10 to 15 minutes at the maximum and then know when to switch off.

I don't mean to offend your mother but the world is changing (I can feel it in the water...) and the myths about the internet become less believable every day. My mother used to worry that I spent too much time talking to strangers online, telling me that such relationships weren't real. I might remind her about that soon when I marry a girl I met on the Barrow-Downs!

Seriously, good luck with whatever you do, but I hope you come back soon.

The Sixth Wizard · 06-09-2008, 06:05 AM

Goodbye Finduilas! You can't escape death, taxes or the mandate of your parents. I will remember you as an enthusiastic new member and a good source of discussion.

When I was most heavily into the 'Downs, I wasn't considering it wasted time, or not on the whole wasted. Thanks to a couple RPGs, intelligent discussions on something I actually knew about with adults and acceptance into a group of people due to shared interest, I found the 'Downs a positive source of self-esteem. You should too!

Groin Redbeard · 06-09-2008, 11:44 AM

At least, Finduilas, you'll leave causing another great question: "Is the Downs really useless?"

Sorry I couldn' resist!

06-07-2008, 08:44 AM	#1
Finduilas Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Home. Where rolling green hills and clear rivers are practically my backyard. Posts: 595	Fare thee well I'm leaving the Downs, and since I don't want to just dissapear, I'll say goodbye first! Just so you know, nothing's wrong, I'm not half dead or torn apart inside. Life's great, or at least normal. Mom just told me she doesn't want me on this site anymore, and I think her reasoning was my life is too busy to waste time on a LotR fan site. And, I think she is right. I love you all, and I will miss you. But I'll get over it. I'm getting on next weekend for the last time, till then, Goodbye! ~Finduilas~ __________________ One (1) book of rules and traffic regulations, which may not be bent or broken. ~ The Phantom Tollbooth

06-07-2008, 09:02 AM	#2
Mithalwen Pilgrim Soul Join Date: May 2004 Location: watching the wonga-wonga birds circle... Posts: 9,460	Well that is pity... Tolkien has been such a positive thing in my life that it seems sad that it is regarded as a waste of time... but then the internet wasn't widely available until after I had finished my formal education, if it had, no doubt my parents might have taken action Though there are far worse ways to spend time... Anyway all the best for what ever you do do instead - and you may close the door but we won't lock it behind you. __________________ “But Finrod walks with Finarfin his father beneath the trees in Eldamar.” Christopher Tolkien, Requiescat in pace

06-07-2008, 01:50 PM	#3
Groin Redbeard Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Facing the world's troubles with Christ's hope! Posts: 1,635	I'm so sorry to hear that you are leaving, Findiulas. Though I can understand you mothers point view, and I wish you luck in all of your future endevours in life. Your memory will still live on here, in the land of the dead! God Bless you, Finduilas. __________________ I heard the bells on Christmas Day. Their old, familiar carols play. And wild and sweet the words repeatof peace on earth, good-will to men! ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

06-07-2008, 07:37 PM	#4
alatar Doubting Dwimmerlaik Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Heaven's basement Posts: 2,466	Thanks for all of your interesting insights, and good luck with whatever you may be doing. You'll be missed. __________________ There is naught that you can do, other than to resist, with hope or without it.

06-07-2008, 08:49 PM	#5
Morai Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: May 2002 Location: Where young people go to retire Posts: 709	Random Title #798 Aw...I wish I had gotten to know you better! Well wishes and blessings, and as Mithalwen said, you're welcome whenever your mum likes. __________________ "So why the safe distance, this curious look? Why tear out single pages when you can throw away the book? Why pluck one string when you can strum the guitar? MeWithoutYou http://fortyfifthparadox.com

06-07-2008, 09:16 PM	#6
Formendacil Dead Serious Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Perched on Thangorodrim's towers. Posts: 3,328	A good-bye from me might not seem quite in order, given that your period of membership corresponds fairly well to my period of relatively inactive membership, but I'll chime in anyway with best wishes for "real" life, and also add my formal protest to the notion that this site is a waste of time. It is, in many respects, of course. Time spent online never accomplishes any great moral victories, no one is materially benefited, and when you go to bed at night, all you can say about those lost hours is "I laughed way too hard about that..." That being said, how many of us actually spend our days completely productively? Maybe I'm in the minority, but I certainly cannot say that I do. An awful lot of my time is spent in useless, self-entertaining endeavours. And as far as THOSE go, I think the Barrow-downs is probably about as good as they come, and maybe then some. Quite apart from all the laughs, the discussions, and the skills involved in both that have been honed here, even two years after I've been intimately involved on this site, I'd still consider a number of the best friends I have in the world to be members here. So, if you actually are going off to spend every waking moment in productive and moral actions, then you have my complete commendation, but otherwise... while I wish you the best of luck... I can't imagine that taking leave of one of the nicest, awesomest, communities of individuals being such a good thing. Apologies if I'm making this more depressing... I realise your mom's decision isn't exactly your own. __________________ I prefer history, true or feigned.

06-08-2008, 12:16 PM	#7
Hookbill the Goomba Alive without breath Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: On A Cold Wind To Valhalla Posts: 5,912	Woe! May your time in the land of the living be filled with good things, fun times and, most importantly, cake. Always remember there is a nice cold Barrow open to you here on the Downs. We'll try and keep them squatters out (they're mostly still up at Amon Rûdh) and not let the rat problem get out of hand... again. I am avoiding the temptation to shout "FIGHT THE POWER!", but I suppose that your work and future are important. May good times follow you to the end. After that, come back and tell us all about it! __________________ I think that if you want facts, then The Downer Newspaper is probably the place to go. I know! I read it once. THE PHANTOM AND ALIEN: The Legend of the Golden Bus Ticket...

06-08-2008, 03:47 PM	#8
Macalaure Fading Fëanorion Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: into the flood again Posts: 2,911	It's a pity I never got to know you very much here. Sad to see you go, now. You will always be welcomed, should you return. Hmm... if your mother doesn't trust your judgement concerning what web pages you visit, maybe she trust Folwren's? If you and your sister both state that this is one of the most harmless places on the web, maybe she will reconsider? Concerning time, as others have said, real life duties of course have to take precedence, but they are, after all, never a reason to abandon a nice pastime entirely. Anyway, all the best wishes to you for your further life. Be happy!

06-09-2008, 05:59 AM	#9
Eomer of the Rohirrim Auspicious Wraith Join Date: May 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 4,859	10 to 20 years? What on Middle-earth are your plans? You have to get online to check your email, I presume. I also presume that you are a fairly well-balanced individual who is able to browse for 10 to 15 minutes at the maximum and then know when to switch off. I don't mean to offend your mother but the world is changing (I can feel it in the water...) and the myths about the internet become less believable every day. My mother used to worry that I spent too much time talking to strangers online, telling me that such relationships weren't real. I might remind her about that soon when I marry a girl I met on the Barrow-Downs! Seriously, good luck with whatever you do, but I hope you come back soon. __________________ Los Ingobernables de Harlond

06-09-2008, 06:05 AM	#10
The Sixth Wizard Shade of Carn Dûm Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Stuck under a rock in Valinor with Ar-Pharazon. Posts: 480	Goodbye Finduilas! You can't escape death, taxes or the mandate of your parents. I will remember you as an enthusiastic new member and a good source of discussion. When I was most heavily into the 'Downs, I wasn't considering it wasted time, or not on the whole wasted. Thanks to a couple RPGs, intelligent discussions on something I actually knew about with adults and acceptance into a group of people due to shared interest, I found the 'Downs a positive source of self-esteem. You should too!

06-09-2008, 11:44 AM	#11
Groin Redbeard Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Facing the world's troubles with Christ's hope! Posts: 1,635	At least, Finduilas, you'll leave causing another great question: "Is the Downs really useless?" Sorry I couldn' resist! __________________ I heard the bells on Christmas Day. Their old, familiar carols play. And wild and sweet the words repeatof peace on earth, good-will to men! ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Last edited by Groin Redbeard; 06-09-2008 at 12:01 PM.