Fordim, I'm glad to say I have outgrown my Leggy bopper days! >.> <.<
As for the so-called "girlyness" of elves, I will be an egoist and point those who are interested in rabbit trails to this:
Lament for the Elves
But, also, I think the main hatred of Legolas goes to problem of the compatableness of LotR to film. Let's face it, Legolas is a cardboard character -- it really shouldn't come as a surprise that he's a flimsy film character, slightly crumpled on film.