Oh my
Lommy! Those two boys are just soo... true.
I mean I can see two such ADHD-cases in RL as well...
Foley: I think your post was quite heartbreaking and not boring in the least.
But I'd like you to consider the following suggestion: as you said yourself the Scarburgians would have thought of the order and usage of rooms already before. So if Saeryn sleeps in a shared ladies quarters, then it is a conscious decision of the Scarburg-people. Would they have made such a decision? I think the people of the MH would not like that solution - thus making it Saeryn's insistence on it if she sleeps there?
It would be a day's work to just hoist a wall dividing the ladies quarters into a larger hall-kind of space and a smaller private room - or a few days if the wall was intended as a permanent structure. So they would have had ample time for it.
And if they had like two weeks or something between the news of the new eorl and his arrival the craftsmen could have done much more, like building a totally new room for lady Saeryn or something.
So I'd suggest Saeryn would have a room of her own - and her own things in there.
But it's up to you
Foley.