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Originally Posted by Ibrīnišilpathānezel
Actually, it DOES come to my mind quite often, when I react to the behavior of people I encounter on the streets, in stores, on the road, etc. who irritate the bejeebers out of me. When my knee-jerk reaction is to become angry and judgmental, I try to remind myself to pause and remember that I don't know why that person behaves as they do. It could be plain bad manners and self-centeredness, or it could be something more. It doesn't always work, of course, but once in a while, it reminds me to seek to forgive rather than avenge. I suppose this is partly the product of having grown up in a large abusive family. It was reading LotR and much of the wisdom of Gandalf that helped me try to not become the same kind of abusive, judgmental person as many of those who made my life among them so horrible. One can choose not to carry on the pattern of abuse that so often is handed down from generation to generation.
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Very good for you then, I'd say. Myself, fortunately, I had the upbringing from very childhood to forgive, not to judge or to avenge, but still, Gandalf's words are something that speaks to me even now and which resonates through me - not thinking about it on daily basis maybe, but from time to time, I recall it as probably the most addressing quote of the whole LotR. And actually when looking at this thread first, I could not immediately think of any other quote I could name as anything I would recall (I don't recall any other one even now).