As far as I’ve been able to find, the only marriage of two Maiar that is mentioned by Tolkien is that of Ossė and Uinen. (If anyone can give another reference, I’d be delighted.) They share a common task, the rule of the seas, but have greatly diverging personalities. Ossė delights in wind, storm and the roaring waves. There is an innate wildness in him that made him susceptible to temptation by Melkor. He is dangerous, even after he repented.
Uinen’s role is that of a restraining, gentling influence on her husband. She is revered by mariners, especially by the Nśmenóreans,
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for she can lay calm upon the waves, restraining the wildness of Ossė.
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When he was tempted to serve Melkor, she
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restrained Ossė and brought him before Ulmo; and he was pardoned and returned to his allegiance, to which he has remained faithful. For the most part; for the delight in violence has never wholly departed from him, and at times he will rage in his wilfulness without any command from Ulmo his lord. Therefore those who dwell by the sea or go up in ships may love him, but they do not trust him.
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At first glance, this might sound like a stereotypical female role, exercising the civilizing influence of a woman as in Wild West days. But looking more closely, reading between the lines (since there are no more lines to read), I am convinced that Uinen is a female with great innate strength. She
has the ability to restrain her husband, and he obviously respects her enough to let her exert a profound influence on him - so much so, in fact, that he permits her to lead him to repentance! They care about each other – I would say that is a good marriage, though we get only a tiny glimpse of it.
Isn’t it interesting that Tolkien doesn’t have a cookie-cutter type pattern for marriage? There are all kinds of combinations of personalities there, and the more closely I look, the more fascinating it gets.