Nay, Child, I'm not running away to doctors
It is much as I feel. And it reminded me of situation given by C.S.Lewis', when he considers loss of friends (Probably in the Problem of Pain, but maybe in Four Loves rather, can't recall for sure now), using as an example late Charles Willians. It went something along the following lines "When Charles is gone, with him I loose that part of Ronald which was showing out only in reaction to Charles, so I loose not only Charles, but part of Ronald too, which will never be called upon if there are only two of us, instead of three before"